The 2 Biggest Mistakes I Made Preparing for Pregnancy (And What I'd Do Differently)
When I started preparing to try for a baby, I thought I was doing everything right.
I researched obsessively. I bought all the "right" supplements. I followed every piece of advice I found online. I thought if I just did enough, tried hard enough, prepared perfectly enough, everything would work out exactly as planned.
Looking back now (pregnant with my first baby) I can see how much time, money, and mental energy I wasted on things that didn't actually matter.
Here are the two biggest mistakes I made, and what I wish I'd done instead.
Mistake #1: I Tried to Control Everything
I became obsessed with doing everything "perfectly."
I did extensive research into supplements. I thought I needed to go full force back into a harsh workout regimen. I tracked every possible variable. I convinced myself that if I just optimized enough, I could guarantee a specific outcome.
The problem? All that control-seeking just made me anxious.
Fertility doesn't work like a math equation. You can do everything "right" and still wait longer than expected. Or you can be imperfect and conceive quickly.
**What I'd do differently:** Focus on the few things that genuinely matter (yes, there are only a few) and let go of everything else. More isn't better when it comes to pre-pregnancy prep.
Mistake #2: I Ignored the Emotional Prep
I spent all my energy preparing my body, but I didn't prepare my mind or my life for what was coming.
I didn't think about:
- How to handle the anxiety of trying to conceive
- What boundaries I'd need once people knew we were trying
- The conversations my partner and I should have before getting pregnant
- How to protect my mental health through the process
And I paid for that oversight later. The emotional side of TTC hit me hard, and I wasn't ready for it.
**What I'd do differently:** Spend as much time on emotional and relational preparation as I did on physical preparation. Maybe more.
What I learned
Preparing for pregnancy isn't about doing everything perfectly. It's about knowing what actually matters and releasing everything else.
It's about supporting your body with the basics while also preparing your mind, your relationship, and your boundaries for what's ahead.
And it's about trusting yourself when the world is telling you that you don't know enough.
I created a guide with everything I wish someone had told me before I started trying to conceive- the mistakes to avoid, the things that genuinely help, and the emotional prep that nobody talks about.
If you're thinking about getting pregnant or already trying, I don't want you to waste the time and energy I did figuring all this out.
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This is the honest, practical guide I needed. No overwhelm, no perfection required.